On December 26th my grandmother, Mary Freni, passed away. She had been suffering from severe dementia the past few years and my family had been forced to place her in an assisted living facility. At the time of her death the dementia had taken such a hold of her that she was unable to recognize family, where she was, when it was, etc. She was well into her 90s.
(1989)
Gramma was a strong-willed woman and was a wonderful example for me. I have so many fond memories of our visits to Florida to see her and Grampa and swim in their pool. While I was racked by guilt the day she passed – guilt for not saying goodbye, guilt for not having seen her, guilt for not feeling sadder, I was relieved that she had passed and wouldn’t have to suffer any longer. Today I am feeling positive and happy for the 30 + years I was able to spend with her.Though I don’t have any steadfast beliefs when it comes to religion, I do believe that she is with Grampa now and they’re out playing golf and traveling and bickering like they used to.
I have been so lucky to know all of my grandparents and spend so much time with each of them. They each led full lives and contributed so much to who I am today. While I’m sad that I no longer have any grandparents in my life, I am grateful for what they taught me and the memories I will keep.
Gramma and Grampa with Lisa and I (1983)
You know, I had no idea Mary had passed away until I read your blog today :( I didn't know her very well but thought she was so kind. When we would see her on the holidays she almost acted proud of any achievements I may have had and always had encouraging words. I'm glad you have such great memories of your grandparents. Oh..and dang you were a cute little girl!
ReplyDeleteThat's so sweet of you Aunt Cathy! And I have no doubt she was proud!
ReplyDeleteYeah, Lisa and I were pretty darn cute when we were little - have no idea what happened! :)